3Y9M - I'm Super Kiyo

3Y9M - Kiyo introduced herself as "I'm super Kiyo" or "i'm princess Angelina" or "i'm Super kiyo Angelina". You must be curious how the Angelina comes from, is the name of the cartoon mice, Angelina Ballerina, Kiyo likes that mice who can dance ballet so much.

She is now a VERY talketive, noisy girl! She sing, she talks, she asks, she jumps, she runs, non-stop all day long. Sometimes she created her own song, using all the english word she know, and sing non stop. Sometimes we are begging her to stop for peace, but she will get angry and says we didnt listen or pay attention to her. *faint*

She is getting big girl, stable,caring, understanding now. She sometimes educate us back when we do something not nice. She will inform daddy to stop for the red traffic light, she will takes hers and my bottle for water drinking together, she will stop us going nearer when she making big business, tells us it's smelly, she feeds us medicine when we sick, and etc.

And, here i am annoucing that Kiyo is going to be jiejie by next March/April. After since i am pregnant, some changes on her makes me worried much. She has mood swing, throwing tantrum anywhere anytime as she likes, not under control when she doesnt give in and many more. I have to inform about my pregnancy to the school once i knew it, principal and teachers helped a lots in comforting her and telling her about new baby coming.

I'm really glad that daddy helps me a lots in taking care of Kiyo, and Kiyo is also very understanding. After school, daddy will bring her to work, they let me sleep quietly to the maximum. And, sometimes Kiyo will pat me to sleep, she tells me to close my eyes and sleep, she even off the lights for me and asked daddy to be quiet. So touching. When daddy is not free, Kiyo will stay quietly with me, she do her own thing, play ipad, watch Disney, play megablock, drawing and colouring, go toilet all by herself.

In the school, teacher stil complaining that she couldnt really pay full attention, she is not good in recognising words, not good in flash card reading. For me, academy is not important for her age now, our intention to send her at 3 is for her to mix around, talk more and explore more. We are really happy for her speech improvement and some good manners learnt.

In the art class, she is doing pretty well, with many compliment from teacher and other parents on her art piece. Yes, still many of them doesnt believe the work is from a 3yrs old kid.

Little bit about my pregnancy, i am totally 'collapsed' since first month til 12weeks, with backache, bad appetite, dizzy, indigestion, vomit on and off, bad sore nipple, and lower stomach discomfort. My sinus attacking me at 10weeks, for 2 weeks long, forced to take some flu medication from gynae. I am feeling better at 11weeks, less dizzy and tired, but still only taking 2 meals per day with small portion, sweet stuffs makes me vomit, backache on and off with sore legs muscle, eating a lots junk foods, chips, fast foods, haven start with any milk or supplement. I'm trying my best to stay healthy.

The One i Love The One i Care...

Some precious pictures taken at Coffeebean, Miri!

Balik Kampung...

I'm back and enjoying village life since friday.. The usual 5hours journey took me nearly 10hours to reach home.. An unfortunate accident happened to our fren who was on his own car, luckily no major injury to him, only his head and chest bang on the steering! God blessing... After making police report, arranged towing and sent him back to Seberang Jaya, we continued our journey home.
It's alway nice to be home.. Good foods always waiting for us. We went straight to uncle's restaurant once reached, but i was really tired and sleepy, didnt have any appetite, just finished the very delicious bowl of shark fin soup, specially cooked by uncle for us.
Next day, daddy always wake up early for breakfast (only wake up for brunch in KL), here RM10 is more than enough for our breakfast. Kiyo is now following daddy in and out, just loves the motorbike ride, we will drive only at night or need to take grandma out. Yes, again Kiyo is more tan.. The funniest thing happen yesterday, she skipped her afternoon nap, watching cartoon when we were napping, kept waiting to go out, ended up she falls sleep during the motorbike ride in the evening.
We went to some places that shown in Astro programme likes Wang Kelian and Kaki bukit big pau. Wang Kelian is a sunday market at the check point to Thailand, need no passport and Thai money, some items is pretty cheap there. I saw the electronic bike i bought for Kiyo is only RM150 there, which i paid for RM198 in KL, bought few handmade laundry basket at RM18 only, selling RM35 at KL, and i finally got a bicycle, wish comes true after years, hubby bought me a foldable bicycle, very light too!
The life here is so relaxing. Less car less noise less jam but warm and nice people around. We are lepaking here and there, at relatives house, shop, watching ferry to/from Langkawi, explaining to Kiyo about paddy field, fishing boat, natural life and animals, some family fishing at the riverside or big longkang, all by motorbike! So, dont be suprise to see my tan-gal in the CNY...
More update soon....

The Journey of Sensitive!

Thanks to a lots friend who really concerned on Kiyo's condition! Here, let me story a bit about what happen to Kiyo and how's her condition now!

Before Kiyo turns 2yrs old, she is an active and healthy gal, she hardly fall sick, if do, she recovered very fast! But not everyday is fullmoon day, Kiyo was having a long cough, about a month, when she reached 2yrs old, taken many medicine still coughing on n off... i stopped her from all sort of foods, chicken, cold stuffs, fruits, sweets and bla bla, but nothing helps! I brought her to see sensei, boiled 'chuan bei' with korean pear everyday, fed her 'hou zhao shan' everyday too, cough lesser only! I was so upset and so down... i was so sad when she cough non stop til she vomitted out everything!

She was on Singulair and anti allergy medicine for a mth from her child specialist! This really knocked the cough down, she cough on n off still but lesser. At the same time, we bought in 4units of AAF air purifier (becomes an agent too) and changed her Enfagrow to Organic Soya Milk..

AAF Air Purifer, i am using the 1st left unit...

BMS Biogreen Organic DHA Soya milk (for above 1yr old) - how i come across to this soya milk, it's actually intro by my customer, who is the owner of Lohas, attached with BMS bandar puteri branch! One fine evening, i met her at my shop and talking about Kiyo's case, she suggested me to change Kiyo's milk, the reason is when milk goes into human body, the milk then will form into gel type with body temperature, and these gel will stay at kid's narrow throat and becomes phlegm! I have to agree with her as Kiyo has many phlegm when she cough and she have to vomit out the sticky thingy then only her cough will stopped.. Later, i went and do some survey, the sale assistant of BMS introduced this DHA Soya Milk to me, the DHA Gold are from seaweed not animals! And, it contains of OLIGOSACCHARIDE prebiotic and made of peeled organic beans...

This is the 4 powder to mix to make her milk daily, 6.5oz/3hours... i started add in Nestle Rice cereal when i stopped cooking own made rice cereal when she was 1yr old, too lazy to cook everyday! For Nestum, Leann taught me to blend it and add in for fragrance! The Oatmilk, introduced by BMS lady too, high in calcium... i am normally mix the cereal, nestum n oatmilk into 1 container, add in 1 big scoop to the milk only!

These are the medicine for that few month on n off coughing! Fever, flu, cough, anti allergy...

And, i gave her oso bird's nest with Cordyceps, some herbs boil with lean meat, and these supplement! (includes Organic Virgin Coconut oil)... I know it's a bit too much and over...

Thank to god, after months consuming the soya milk and these supplements, she is now *touch wood* less sensitive to dust or mite or carpet or cushion! (she used to cough once she stepped in my car, then we bought another cushion washer machine just to solve this problem) And, her child specialist said it's glad that we found out what actually she is sensitive to and at least we can do more prevention on it, but still we need to expose her to it, so her body can build own immunityt! Gambateh... i am now slowly let go her to all foods, cold stuffs and fruits, of cox still taking extra care, stop it when cough again! So far so good...

Well, she still on cold shower, since 6mths old, i never intend to change it! i always believed kids take cold shower are stronger, and she likes it (except washing hair moment)

Oh ya, her cough finally fully stopped at 3rd mth, which is 2mths after milk changing!

Miracle from gene...

Just found back this photo of mine and i combined it with Kiyo's 1yr old photo... how much similar look?

Happy Birthday To Hubby Enan...

Happy Birthday to Hubby... May all ur wish comes true, May ur business goes smooth, May god gift u baby number 2... hahahahahhaa....

(Yea, he is Enan, i am Maggie, i am using his multiply account all these while, so today is his bday not mine)

据说有一种女人嫁给谁都能幸福

有一种女人，不管她嫁的是建筑工人还是国会议员，她都有能力让自己过得幸福!

　　我见到明依是在好友的聚会上，一个35岁的女人，中等姿色，学历也不高，却嫁了个气宇轩昂的好老公，他据说是硕士，后来做家具生意发了家，结婚10年，有一个粉雕玉镯的小女儿，好友说完后半妒半羡地感叹，嫁到这么好的男人，明依真幸福，我笑着不说话，想来她的故事不会这么简单。
　　

幸福能力1

会做菜，会煲汤，会踏实过日子

　　明依嫁给老公的时候，他还是大学里年轻的讲师，站在讲台上激情飞扬地大谈犬儒主义和叔本华，台下的女生们多数是冲着英俊老师来的，明依全身心的投入和迷恋这份感情，那时候她当然不会去考虑台上气质非凡的男人名下只有一间20平米的筒子楼宿舍。
　　婚后的现状虽然不尽如人意，但如胶似漆的爱情可以弥补一切。小两口一起在公共用水间洗衣服，一人一头拧床单;在烟熏火燎的楼道里做饭，饭后老公陪着她边洗碗边聊天;周末手拉手去看场电影或是回婆家吃顿饭。明依觉得小日子虽然清贫，但一样觉得幸福甜蜜，她把眼光从简陋的家，朴素的衣裳，自己光秃秃的脖子手指上移开，每月精打细算的捂着手中不多的钱把日子过好，明依做得一手好菜，老公最爱喝她熬的汤，排骨炖莲藕，鲫鱼萝卜丝，芋头娃娃菜……每次喝的肚儿圆圆才放下碗。看到老公简单满足的微笑，明依觉得，这就是幸福。
　　大学的谈资论辈终于令老公厌烦了。明依看出了他的心思，鼓励他去经商创业，那一阵，家里家外的事情全靠明依一手操持，老公在外面联系洽谈，四处求人，有时候碰壁受气，回家难免冲着老婆发泄。日子比刚结婚那阵更苦，心理压力也大，明依背地里也哭过，当面也和老公吵过，但每当一早醒来看见老公的头颅孩子一般依恋在自己的肩头，心里便像温水里融化的蜜，暖暖的，甜甜的。
　　她比以往更加用心操持家务，把500元租来的小房间布置得整洁温馨;老公夜归的时候她总在灯下等着，接下沉重的公文包，递上一杯热茶;临睡前两口子坐在床头聊聊烦心的事情，共同商量解决问题的办法。
　　

幸福能力2

对婚姻别期望太高，少抱怨，少纠结于小事

　　怀上孩子的时候，老公的事业刚起步，天天周旋于客户和朋友间，请客吃饭，陪酒，陪玩，每晚不到深更半夜回不了家。明依非常难过，面前的男人虽然还是熟悉的面孔，却好像完全换了一个灵魂。他没时间对着大肚子的老婆嘘寒问暖，没精力回应老婆的温存关切，在生活的残酷考验下，他还原了男人爱事业不爱美人的本质，简直就是一个工作狂。明依觉得自己的温柔克己完全白费了，眼前的男人已经不是当初自己深爱的那一个，再勉强下去还有什么意义?
　　定居美国的大姐回来看她，明依哭着告诉她：老公给不了我想要的幸福，我想离婚。大姐缄默，第二天给她带来一本美国专栏女作家的畅销小集子，里面有一句话让明依有所触动：有一种女人，不管她嫁的是建筑工人还是国会议员，她都有能力让自己过得幸福。没错，女人的幸福，为什么要靠男人给呢?每个女人，都应该有让自己，让家庭幸福的能力。
　　大着肚子的明依向父母求援，请妈妈过来帮忙买菜做饭，照顾这个自己无力兼顾的小家。她强迫自己不去想烦心的事情，每天吃好睡好，安心养胎;她不再等老公夜归，不再像以前那样每天缠着他问长问短，不再拿鸡毛蒜皮的小事去烦他;在他偶尔有空的时间里让他搀着自己散步，彼此取笑着对方为孩子取名字。也怪了，一天天平静安稳地过去，原本觉得天昏暗地的生活，渐渐变得阳光灿烂起来。
女儿快3岁了，他们搬了新家。钱都花在房款上了，明依雇了个油漆匠把墙一刷，购置了简单的家具，就这样凑合着先搬进去了。老公每天回家都能看到一点点新的变化：客厅里别致的灯罩是用硬纸壳蒙上米色暗红碎花图案的棉布做的;自己到海南出差带回来的椰子，吃剩的硬壳被巧妙改造成了造型可爱的小猪扑满;卷筒纸用完了，明依给简芯细致地裹上了一层米白色亚麻细布，教女儿用蜡笔涂鸦，画出五彩的虹，绿的树，蓝色的河流，金色的太阳公公，这样一个DIY小笔筒摆在书桌上，做爸爸的每次看到心里都暖洋洋的。一个原本平凡的空间在明依手里渐渐改头换面，一天比一天丰富，一天比一天有情趣。

　　幸福能力3

培养自己的兴趣爱好，照顾好自己在前，不冷落家庭在后

　　汤妮的出现差点儿击碎了明依的幸福梦想。她是老公生意上的重要合伙人之一，年轻，家境富裕，有生意头脑和管理能力，带着一种咄咄逼人的美和气势。汤妮明显地向老公老公表示好感，根本不在乎他的已婚身份，男人到了这种地步，不免有些心猿意马，暧昧不明。很多人都来向明依告密，有的是打抱不平，有的纯粹为了看热闹。
　　明依却还是和以前一样，看自己的书，种自己的花花草草，照顾刚上小学的女儿。
　　在老公回家的时候，给他送上舒服的拖鞋;在他起床洗漱的时候，提前给他挤好牙膏。她对烹调的兴趣越发浓厚，时不时来些新奇的花样。比如把香蕉切成小块，浇上酸奶，然后裹上全麦饼干屑;去凤凰旅游的时候学会了用蒜叶和新鲜芫菜加干辣椒炝炒;跟婆婆学会了做四川泡菜。
　　种种小创意让在外面吃惯了大鱼大肉的老公回到家来就会忍不住多添一碗饭，赞一句，还是家里的菜好吃。明依把周末的时间精心策划起来，老公有空的时候，带上孩子，开车到附近的农家乐，踏青，看红叶，老公没空陪她，她就自己带着女儿去儿童乐园，或是看最新上映的动画大片。每次娘俩儿都开心的手牵手回家，女儿欢声笑语，明依红光满面。
　　老公终日担心，如果明依提出那个难堪的问题，他不知道该如何回答。但明依开开心心地过自己的日子，从来不多问一句。当然明依也有变化：她恢复了几分婚前活泼可爱的样子，穿衣打扮越发精致;她参加了瑜伽课，学打网球;她组织姐妹旅行团去尼泊尔，回来容光焕发，给女儿带回一条手工绣花的小裙子，送老公一个乌木镶银的烟灰缸;她甚至开始学习英文，居然可以磕磕巴巴地和美国网友聊天!这个跟了自己10年的女人身上原来还有那么多自己不了解的特质和能量，这一切都让他感觉既陌生又熟悉，并深深为之吸引。
　　汤妮的事情居然就这么慢慢地淡了，没了，女友去看明依，崇拜无比地追问她处理方式。明依笑说，见怪不怪，其怪自败。以前我老觉得嫁个好老公就能幸福，现在看起来，女人的幸福不是靠男人给的。女人要有让自己幸福的能力。热爱生活，照顾好家庭，不冷落自己，这才是女人真正的幸福。
　　

这话有道理，一个家庭幸不幸福，80%以上取决于女主人。有能力让自己幸福，有能力给男人幸福，才是聪明的好女人。